Musings & Thoughts for Wednesday, March 3, 2021, or: Why I’m Not Looking Forward to Friday

Yours Truly at Oga’s Cantina on March 5, 2020.

Hello, Dear Reader. It’s early afternoon here in New Hometown, Florida on Wednesday, March 3, 2021. It’s a mild late winter day by Florida standards; the temperature is 71˚F (22˚C)  under partly sunny skies. With humidity at 68% and the wind blowing from the west-northwest at 11 MPH (19 KM/H), the feels-like factor is 71˚F (22˚C). The forecast for today calls for scattered rain showers and a high of 74˚F (23˚C). Tonight, skies will be mostly clear and the low will be 54˚F (12˚C).

Well, in two days I will observe my 58th birthday. I’m not overly enthused about it, but not for the “oh, I’m going to be 60 years old in 2023” or any pondering-my-own-mortality reasons. I long ago had to come to terms with the fact that we are all mortal, and although I have no desire to “shuffle off this mortal coil” any time soon, the thought of dying doesn’t depress me as much as it used to.[1]

Rather, I’m dreading my upcoming birthday because it is going to be spectacularly dull and not a festive occasion.

There are two reasons for this.

First, the global pandemic that has gripped the planet for a year now hasn’t gone away, so even if things were fine between The Caregiver and I as far as our personal relations are concerned, we could not go, say, to Walt Disney World or Disney Hollywood Studios like we have done twice since I moved here almost five years ago. We can afford it, that much I know, but going to a theme park and worrying about the virus, fretting about our masks, and all the attendant hassles of pandemic etiquette seems to be more nerve-wracking than a fun experience.

The author on his 54th birthday at Disney Hollywood Studios in 2017.

I ought to know, because when the Caregiver and I went to Hollywood Studios – to see the Galaxy’s Edge part of Hollywood Studios, mostly – we were both overly conscious of coronavirus and being at a crowded theme park. And trust me, it’s nearly impossible to have fun in a crowded theme park while worrying if another park visitor’s coughs or sneezes will send you to the hospital ICU…or the morgue!

The Millennium Falcon attraction at Star Wars: Galaxy’s Edge was a cool place to spend my 57th birthday.

The second reason is self-explanatory and has already been alluded to: last year I was in a romantic relationship, albeit a somewhat dysfunctional one; this year I am not. QED.

I already know that we aren’t going anywhere special for dinner – again, thank you, COVID, anti-mask idiots, and former President Trump! – and I deeply suspect that if I get a gift from my Caregiver, it probably won’t be something that’ll bowl me over.

Blech. Friday, March 5, 2021 is going to be another Pandemic Blursday, on par with my 52nd birthday, which was the last birthday I spent at my old house whilst my mom was still alive.

No, scratch that. My 52nd birthday was definitely far worse. Consider:

My old hood. I would often go to the lake to watch the ducks swim and get some fresh air and sunshine.

My mom was still alive and, miraculously, was not so far gone re her memory and she remembered my birthday. And she even told me to order something I wanted for my birthday from Amazon. (I did; I ended up choosing the Blu-ray of Tora! Tora! Tora!) But tensions between my older half-sister and I were high and growing incredibly intense, so both of us were not on our best behavior. Vicky didn’t exactly go out of her way to make my birthday festive, although she did give me a book I had asked her to get me. (I gave Vicky the DVD of Frozen for her birthday, which was and still is five days after mine.)

I was tired, dreadfully so. Taking care of a sick elderly person is taxing on the body and the mind, and even though I had help from home health aides paid for by the state of Florida, I still had to deal with a million details re the townhouse –  paying bills, getting repairs to the fence from the homeowners’ association (HOA), food shopping, and coping with an older half-sister who was more of a hindrance to me and the home health aides than she was helpful – that took up most of my waking hours.

And because I couldn’t trust Vicky with the house and family heirlooms in my absence  – one out-of-town-trip in 2011 taught me that she would take advantage of my absence and do shady stuff – I could not go away from the townhouse for a week’s respite from the daily grind and depression of being a caregiver for a dying parent.

(C) 2008 Random House Publishing Group
(C) Warner Bros. Home Entertainment

In that respect, even a Blursday in New Hometown is far, far better than that day in Anno Horriblis 2015. At least here I don’t have to deal with a narcissistic and greedy half-sibling, and I will be giving myself a couple of birthday presents, including a paperback edition of The Complete Making of Indiana Jones: The Definitive Story Behind All Four Films by J.W. Rinzler and Laurent Bouzerau, as well as the 4K UHD version of Stanley Kubrick’s The Shining.

Perspective. It’s all in the perspective.

Well, it’s been nearly 90 minutes since I started this post, and since I don’t have much to add, I’ll just close for now. So,, Dear Reader, stay safe, stay healthy, and I’ll catch you on the sunny side of things.

[1] But while death in general is not something that bothers me, the manner in which I go from being to not being does. For instance, I don’t want to die alone, which is one of the reasons why I’m kind of glad that getting on the Section Eight waiting list is so tedious and thus is a disincentive – at least for me. At least here I have people – and Sandy the Wonder Schnauzer – around me. I’m not sure that I’m wired emotionally to live alone in a city that I’m unfamiliar with.

Another concern I have about death: I don’t want to die like my mother did; wasting away physically and mentally in a hospital-style bed in a small, enclosed space because I can’t get up and move around on my own. Mom had the ill-fortune to need an operation for her spine late in life (at age 82) and though at first she seemed to have recovered well from that ordeal, her advanced age and six hours under anesthesia must have triggered the dementia that ate away at her cognitive skills and her resolve to get well. She lingered for five years, but by July of 2015, her body and soul wore out and she died on July 19, 2015. I really don’t want to go that way.

Published by Alex Diaz-Granados

Alex Diaz-Granados (1963- ) began writing movie reviews as a staff writer and Entertainment Editor for his high school newspaper in the early 1980s and was the Diversions editor for Miami-Dade Community College, South Campus' student newspaper for one semester. Using his experiences in those publications, Alex has been raving and ranting about the movies online since 2003 at various web sites, including Amazon, Ciao and Epinions. In addition to writing reviews, Alex has written or co-written three films ("A Simple Ad," "Clown 345," and "Ronnie and the Pursuit of the Elusive Bliss") for actor-director Juan Carlos Hernandez. You can find his reviews and essays on his blogs, A Certain Point of View and A Certain Point of View, Too.

6 thoughts on “Musings & Thoughts for Wednesday, March 3, 2021, or: Why I’m Not Looking Forward to Friday

  1. I sympathize with you. On my birthday last year, I hit the wall, and I’m still coping with it. All I can offer is that I do have a shoulder to weep on, and a willing ear to listen. I pray that you have a good birthday and my best wishes.

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  2. Well, on the bright side of things, I still have a roof over my head and the dog loves me, so there’s that.

    And I will be watching “The Shining” in a few days. Can you believe I’ve never owned this in any format?

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  3. I think thirty was hard for me because it meant I wasn’t a kid anymore. For, which I spent alone, I bought myself some champagne and lit a black candle. It also happened to coincide with the new millennium, so there were fireworks everywhere. Sixty-one doesn’t sound as old as it once did.

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    1. I turned 30 in 1993, at a time when my half-sister was being especially difficult. So much so, in fact, that when Mom’s sister, my Aunt Martha, spent a few weeks at our house, we asked her if we could fly down to Colombia and spend Christmas with her and the family rather than endure ANOTHER stress-filled holiday with my older half-sibling.

      I can’t, for the life of me, remember what we did on my 30th. Mom was great about both of her kids’ birthdays, but I can’t recall what we did or what we ate. I used to remember these things vividly.


  4. Birthdays have never been a big thing since I was a kid. I hit 16 and it seemed like no one cared anymore. My kids used to try to do something for me. Best birthday I ever had was this past one when I planned it out and invited my Florida friends. It was a blast, even with COVID.

    I hope you can have some enjoyable moments on your day

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    1. Birthdays – back in the day – were pretty good until the late 1990s or so. Mom would celebrate her two kids’ birthdays separately – mine on the 5th, Vicky’s on the 10th – and 99.9% of the time I’d go out with my friends after the family “thing” and Vicky, being older, did her own thing on her birthday.

      Which, of course, was fine. I had my birthday, she had hers. QED. (I like that Latin expression for some reason.)

      That ended sometime around 1998 (I’m guesstimating, but I know it was before I had Internet and when my Lab was still a young dog).

      Around that time, Vicky started complaining that because sometimes she worked at the hospital on her birthday, she wasn’t getting HER party on HER day, whilst I got mine regardless.

      (Vicky is almost 13 years OLDER than Yr, Humble Correspondent. And yet….)

      Naturally, Mom wanted harmony and peace, so she went down Compromise Road and split the difference, so to speak. We’d therefore have joint birthday celebrations on a day that fell between mine and Vicky’s.

      I was cool with that; I still had my posse of friends in the Three Oh Five and could go out with my friends on my real B-day.

      And this was the SOP at my house (well, Mom’s, really) till Mom got sick in 2010.

      After that, though, birthdays became rather sad and drama-filled affairs. The only great birthday I had when Mom was sick was when I went to Atlanta to spend five days with a friend that I met in Epinions.

      I still have to shake my head at Vicky’s half-assed attempt to celebrate my 52nd birthday by buying a $5 pizza from Little Ceasar’s and getting one free.

      I’m sure that I’ll squeeze some joy out of my 58th birthday. I’ll probably get a nice meal delivered or prepared. It’ll be better than the 2015 birthday, at any rate. Thanks for the kind thoughts!

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